when things are going well in your lives...
say to your special person with a big smile, “who lives better than we do?” and then give them a smooch. this is a big deal. it's fun, and you’ll be glad you did it when things are not going so well. speaking of which…
when things are not going so well in your lives and you’re starting to take it out on each other...
dig deep, call on your ancestors for help, and try your very level best in that really bad moment to reach out to your person. if you’re in a stand-off in the kitchen, go over and hug her. if you’re sitting in silent tension on the couch, put your hand on his knee. if you can summon it, say, “i love you.”
more than likely, this will both completely surprise and completely disarm your person. and more than likely, your person will be exceedingly grateful that you realized she was upset, too. and yes, more than likely, she will be just a little bit humbled because you were the one who was able to reach out.
more than likely, this will both completely surprise and completely disarm your person. and more than likely, your person will be exceedingly grateful that you realized she was upset, too. and yes, more than likely, she will be just a little bit humbled because you were the one who was able to reach out.
if, on the other hand, when things are not going so well in your lives, you try your very level best to reach out to your person and you fail because you’re too far gone, trust that your person will reach out to you, and accept it when she does.
maybe in a few minutes, you’ll even be able to laugh about the way you threw a bag of cheetos and a shoe at the refrigerator and collapsed in a heap in the middle of the kitchen floor. or not. either way, it’ll be better than it was before.
hang in there, love. And oh yes, the kitchen floor........oh yes indeedy. this post reminds me of that patty griffin song: "when you break down, i'll drive out and find you....when you forget my love, I'll try to remind you. Stay by you when it don't come easy..." etc. (Can't remember the title, but you know which one I mean!)
ReplyDeleteoh how i love that pg song. oh how i love it.
Deleteand by the way, your comments were going into spam for some reason. that's why they're only appearing now, so far after you made them. i think i fixed it. i think.
DeleteThe cheetos I get, but the SHOE ??? That's just over the top, missy!! :-D Lovely, lovely post. "call on your ancestors for help" -- i needed to be reminded of that one. THANK you!
ReplyDeleteha! cheetos and shoes always live in the same sentence, yes? after all, don't you keep your shoes in the kitchen cupboard right next to the cheetos?
Deletethank you for the kind words. and, indeed: the ancestors. they sure do have power.